Posts Tagged ‘society’

I am a woman & I am against feminism, because, today, our men are suffering because of the abuse of women. And this video is another attempt to show how innocent women are & how bad men are (which is a blatant lie). 

Boys do cry & this is something natural. They get upset, they have a heart, they feel. Instead of telling them “boys don’t cry”, we should try to know why are they crying, why are they upset.

Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (salallahu aleyhe wassalam) used to cry. We must treat men (father/brother/husband/son) nicely, we must treat them like human, we must talk to them when they are upset, and don’t make them feel that crying is something unnatural. They will stop crying in front of us, but will get mentally sick & can even get depressed.

I am sick of people talking about ONLY women’s rights. Today’s society have completely ignored men. I never see anything which shows the real face of women? how they treat men? how they abuse men?

We must stop this & we must stop taking men for granted.

Tragedy Of Today’s Male Society. 

”She can beat the shit out of a man because she is angry, but if he does, then he is women beater.”

If He takes beating from women, people say – he is beaten up by a woman, he is not a man.  (Kya aadmi hai ladki se maar khata hai).

If He beats her back, people say – He is a loser, he beats a woman.  (Kya aadmi hai ladki ko maarta hai).

And these kind of cunning video surfaces up regularly, this time blaming the parenting. And shame on these actresses who, for only a small amount of money promote such biased videos.

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buying things we dont need

We are obsessed with the conversation about “How Can I Take Something That I Don’t Need”, ‘I have no reason to have it, there is no explanation for me for having it but still finding a way to somehow make me feel better about having it.

We have a lot of discourse, conversations & discussions in the Muslim community today about sharia (Islamic law) compliance, financing, halal (permitted) this & haram (prohibited) that but Islamic financing, banking, financial monetary system is very simple, one does not need a Phd to understand it.

It is: “If You Don’t Need It, Don’t Buy It!!!”

“I am not asking for more Allah, I don’t need more, oh Allah, what you have given me is more than enough, it suffices, what I am asking for is that,  put blessings in what you have already given.” This is the concept of barakah in Islam. Barakah is not more, it is about the ability to do more with less.

That’s Islam. That’s shariah compliance. If you never buy anything you don’t need, you are living a life according to the Islamic law. It’s as simple as it is.

And this is something very interesting & profound, “more in less” “blessed & not blessed“.

Today we have got 1 home, 5 people within the home, everybody has got a job, everybody is working & still we are in debt. There is something wrong, something is missing.

We need to understand this. We can live in an apartment for our whole life & we will be ok, we can drive a used beat up old car & we will still be alive. The rule is simple, even if you have cash in the home but you don’t need it, don’t buy it, live a simple life. It’s a very very straight forward simple philosophy.

But the sad reality of today is that people judge others by looking at the house & the car they have. If someone lives in a big house, it means they are happy, even if they are the worst family on earth & if someone lives in a small house, they start telling them, ‘don’t worry, it’s ok if you dont have a big house, you will have it one day’.

Nowadays, people think that the amount of wealth decides whether the other person is happy or not. But this is something really wrong!

I would say, don’t make others feel that they are poor or they don’t fit in the society. Treat them as normal human beings. Because making them feel that they are poor will create problems for them. They may fall into the disease called “inferiority complex”, and as a result what happens is, wives fight with their husbands just because the next door neighbour has a big car & she does not. Children hate their parents because of these insignificant material things.

Don’t judge people by the brands they wear or the car they drive or the house they live in. Many are suffering because of this competition. Competition of, ‘trying to fit in the society.’ They spend more then they have & due to this insanity, families are breaking, crimes are increasing. Live your life according to the Islamic teachings, according to the golden rule “Don’t buy it, if you don’t Need it”.

And my advise for the rich is, “don’t make it difficult for others, try to live a simple life, do not show off, buy only, the things you need, even if you can afford, this will make life easy for the poor.

When people become more & more obsessed with materialism, they bring their children up with the philosophy ‘work work money money, work work money money’. They teach their kids, ‘work work money money’, do they then think, those children are going to care about them? Why will they care about them when they reach old age? They taught them work work money money, not mom dad, money money. Why will they think about them? All they have in their mind is money, enjoyment, fun, let me enjoy the life & that’s all.

The consumer materialistic society has another problem & i.e, it is going to destroy itself. It has to. It is inevitable. Anyone of you can pick up books of history and study them, it’s the same again & again. The history is always repeating itself, the lesson of history is the same. You always find that when a civilization becomes powerful, rich, obsessed with wealth & materialism, the morals begin to decline & the people no longer care about right & wrong, they only care about enjoying themselves, then you will see that the society will collapse.

A society is when human beings live together, cooperate together, try to achieve something together & they work together in order to reach some benefit but if it is every man for himself & all I care about is me & myself, enjoying myself, then does this not contradict the whole idea of society? So, what you find happening is that children no longer care about their parents, the people who are poor are still exposed to the same advertisements, to the same TV commercials, to the same ideas & they think, “we need money, we need wealth” “how can we be happy if we don’t have these things?” And, if they don’t get them by earning, what do you think they will do?

They will steal in order to get it, they will rob people if they have to get it & this is certainly what is happening in the USA. People kill each other, kids kill someone for the Trainers, people will take the life of another human being for a wrist watch! And it’s not just to do with the fact that he has a drug habit, it has to do with his mentality. He thinks that, if I wear these shoes, I will have respect, I will be something, It will make me important, because that is what the advertisements tell him; “Just Do It”.

If you have got this, you are something, you are special & so they feel, “now I have these shoes” “now I have this jacket” “now I have this thing” therefore, “I am something” “I am important”.

For just a piece of cloth which is probably made for a few rupees & they sell it for thousands of rupees or pounds or dollars, violence begins to escalate, crime becomes more. What you find is that, people are living in castles, the rich are beginning to live in enclosed areas with cameras & security guards, only the rich people can go in, there are special enclaves for the rich, and this is because, they fear the violence, they fear what is going to happen. This is happenning in the States, in England, in China.

All of us have become obsessed with this materialism, we have become overtaken by this ideology & the thing is, we are never happy. The more we have the more we want. When do you think you will be happy? When you will have your own flat, your own car? No! because, then you will say, “I want another flat, I can rent it & I can relax more & then I can have another car for my wife, for my daughter, my son and my son in law or maybe I can get a boat, or an airplane….”

When will it end?

The reality is, it never ends! The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Nothing fills the belly of the son of Adam except the dust of his grave”. It is only when you are dead, only then your greed will end, your desires will be extinguished.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “This duniya (world), and everything in it is cursed. There is no blessing, there is no benefit in this world,it is cursed. It is something that will cause you harm, illness, sickness, malcontent & disruption in yourself & unhappiness & unease, the whole world is like that, except the scholar of the religion (Islam), the student of knowledge, the remembrance of Allah & whatever helps you to do that.”

This worldy life is nothing but an enjoyment of deception. Accept this reality & free yourself from the worries & troubles of this worldly life. This is true freedom, freeing yourself from this curse…!!!

~Abdul Raheem Green.

Why are men always ignored? Why don’t we find “Malism”? What good has feminism done to women, as well as men? These are some questions that we all must ask ourselves. 

“Feminism is the root of many women’s & also men’s unhappiness and plays a huge part in our societies decline. You can try and fight nature, repress genetics, fight your subconscious and desires but in the end many feminist are miserable and it shows. Of all the women I know by far the happier ones embrace their femininity, the most miserable and angry ones I personally know are both feminist.

Today’s Feminist have merged “Being Equal with Being The Same” & that’s the problem. The harder today’s feminist push, the more miserable today’s women will be, b/c feminist are not embracing the differences between men and women.

Just one example is how Men can process stress more efficiently but women have much superior emotional capabilities. “Equally important but Different!

I believe today’s men are put off by the overly aggressive and excessively independent women (me included) just as women (even feminist) in the end will not feel satisfied with a weaker Beta / Passive man.

It’s in our DNA and if you argue with that, then you argue with the science of biology. STOP THE MADNESS!”  (Unknown)

I believe a woman is made for home (it does not mean, she must not be educated or go out to meet family or friends etc, by this i mean, even if she is educated, she must not forget her duties & responsibilities). A woman has responsibilities, her husband, her kids, her house etc. I believe that a man & woman are like two wheels of a car, if we place both wheels on the same side, the car wont work. In the same way, today women are trying to become men & this is against their nature. How can they find happiness acting unnaturally? I think, they can not. And the statistics show the same. Women are more sad & disappointed in today’s world.

Islam is the most hated religion because people think women do not get equal rights. But in Islam, the responsibilities are divided which makes the rights of both genders, “equal but not same“. The responsibilities & rights are divided according to natures. For example, if a woman has responsibility of upbringing of children, staying loyal with the husband, a husband along with loyalty, has all the financial responsibilities. The husband should give his wife the marriage gift and this will be her own property.The wife will get full maintenance from her husband e.g. food, clothing, housing, education, recreation, medication etc. Even if the wife is rich, she need not spend single penny for her husband or family. All these are the responsibilities of the husband. 

So, as we can see there is a balance. “Equal But Not Same.” And this is what makes a Happy family.. That’s what i believe..!!!

Please click on the link below to know the results of feminism.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dEfxn912acE